Get Married: A review

A couple of years ago I taught a seminar on the sacrament of marriage, using Mark Regnerus’s excellent book The Future of Christian Marriage, which I reviewed for the Homiletic and Pastoral Review. I taught the same seminar again this past semester and reviewed another recent contribution to the subject, Brad Wilcox’s  Get Married: Why Americans Must Defy the Elites, Forge Strong Families, and Save Civilization (Broadside Books, 2024). You can read the review below or visit HRP and read it again!

Marriage is among the most important social justice issues of our day.  Classic Catholic social teaching—think Leo XIII in Rerum Novarum—has long recognized the connection between social well-being and a family life built on marriage. As Brad Wilcox points out in Get Married: Why Americans Must Defy the Elites, Forge Strong Families, and Save Civilization, “questions of marriage and family” are better predictors of positive or negative social outcomes than “race, education, and government spending” (xiv).  Yet even in Catholic circles, questions of marriage and sexual ethics are often treated not as issues of pressing social concern, but as matters of private morality—or dismissed as “cultural issues.”

Such dismissiveness has little theological basis.  And Wilcox—a professor of sociology and the director of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia—demonstrates that it is even harder to justify from a sociological point of view.  Marriage is good both for society as a whole—a higher percentage of married parents correlates with lower child poverty (73)—and for individuals, both men and women, who report higher rates of happiness, find more meaning in their lives, and are less lonely than their unmarried—and childless—peers (51-52, 115, 121).

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Caveat emptor! Investing in the Kingdom of Heaven: Homily for the 25th Sunday of Ordinary Time

Homily for the twenty-fifth Sunday of Ordinary Time (C).

Detail of the statue of St. Matthew (St. John Lateran)

In 1920, Charles Ponzi devised a scheme to buy international postal coupons in Europe and sell them for a profit in the United States.  So many people invested in Ponzi’s plan that he couldn’t keep up with demand, so he used the money from new investors to pay off old investors, which worked as long as there were more new investors.  And, then, when there weren’t, the whole scheme went kaput.  For a while, Mr. Ponzi made a lot of money using a financial trick without actually producing anything real.  Today similar scams are known as “Ponzi schemes.”  

The parable of the dishonest steward, which Jesus tells in the Gospel, is rather like a first century Ponzi scheme.  The steward, learning that he is about to be fired, retires debts to his master at a steep discount.  Doing so doesn’t cost him anything but comes at his master’s expense.  His master’s debtors will now owe him for their savings, so he’ll have many grateful new friends when he becomes unemployed.  What is surprising about the parable is that the master does not condemn his conniving steward but seems to think his trick is rather clever.  

The explanation Jesus gives of the parable also surprises us because you’d expect the Lord to condemn obvious fraudulent behavior.  But, instead, Jesus uses the story to make a different—very ironic—point.  Jesus’ point is that people—like the steward—put so much cleverness and effort into making money that when it comes to what really matters—their relationship with God—they’re rather careless.  So, he says, “Go ahead, make friends with dishonest wealth.  Invest in the Ponzi scheme.  Then, when it fails, and you see how clever you really were, maybe, then, you’ll start thinking about your eternal dwelling.”  After all, if the steward had worked half as hard for his master as he did to save his own skin, he wouldn’t have been fired to begin with.

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